“How can you say there are too many children? That’s like saying that there are too many flowers” Mother Teresa.
Do you want a Von Trapp brood or a comfortable number that seems easily manageable?
As I’ve mentioned in a previous post I’ve been in the lucky (well I think lucky) position of always knowing how many children I want, and luckily Mr P has agreed with me. Two children works for us and that belief has never changed.
We have, however, just had my nephew and niece to stay (my brother and his wife were at a wedding for the weekend). They are 10 and 8 and are just the most lovely children and are a joy to look after. The amazingness for us was that we have had a very very chilled weekend. From the moment they walked through the door they played with our children (aged 5 and 3) continually. Hide and seek, drawing, puzzles, football, lego, mummy and babies – literally every game under the sun they played. Mr P and I just didn’t know what to do with ourselves.
I ended up finishing 3 craft projects that have been hanging over me for the past few weeks and Mr P got some paperwork done which means he hasn’t had to do it this afternoon after my niece and nephew left.
So… I totally understand that if they were our children full time that they perhaps wouldn’t play so nicely or for that long together however I can see the argument of 4 children. The first 2 go to school when you have the second 2 and then they can all keep each other entertained when jobs and chores need to be done!!
Is that too simplistic a view? Probably. A lot of my friends who have gone from 2 to 3 say that it’s because they just didn’t feel their family was complete yet. No ulterior motive, no babysitters on tap, just because they knew they wanted to be a Mummy of 3.
So what has made you stop or carry on? Money, number of bedrooms, can’t stand the thought of going through pregnancy or labour again or did you keep going for the other sex even though stats aren’t on your side?
This is a debate where there’s no right or wrong however if you are lucky enough to be able to choose the number, how many children do you want?