The Gallery – Frightful

The Gallery is the brainchild of Sticky Fingers.  Every Friday she gives a prompt, an idea, a notion and we have to go out and take a photograph using that prompt. Or just use a photo you already have.  I then have to  post it on my blog and write about it.

So this weeks prompt is ‘frightful’.  I’ve looked through a lot of the other entries and obviously as it’s halloween that has been the focus of a lot of people’s pictures.  As I wrote in an earlier post I’m a bit bah humbug about halloween so I have no such photos so I’ve just spent the last half an hour looking through past pictures on my computer trying to find something that would sum up frightful and I found one that I thought fits quite well.

Frightful – frightful parenting

Earlier this year some great friends of ours got married in South Africa.  My husband was an usher and therefore part of the wedding party which meant he sat up in the front pew.  That left me trying to keep the children entertained and quiet for about 45 minutes.  I’m a HUGE fan of weddings and the actual ceremony and even more so when I love the couple as much as I love this couple.  So I thought about it when we were packing for our holiday and I decided to invest in 2 pairs of headphones that I could plug into my iPad which would allow the children to watch tv (which always keeps them quiet) but obviously with no sound coming out.  It worked an absolute treat and they gave me 45 minutes of quiet while I watched a magical ceremony.

The reaction from others was a mixed bag. The majority thought it was a great idea and were going to follow suit in the future but a few looked in that way that told me they thought it was ‘frightful’ parenting 🙂

Thanks for listening and I look forward to next weeks gallery with a theme of Autumn.

Knowing Me Knowing You Meme

The purpose of this meme was to bring bloggers together, to learn about the person behind the computer screen.
The Rules:
  • Nominate five other blogs in your post ( All must have less than 250 subscribers)
  • Post five random facts about yourself.
  • Answer the five questions that the “tagger” has asked you, and then list your own five questions to ask others.
  • Let your five friends know you have tagged them by commenting on there blog/tweeting them.
My Five Random Facts
  • I gave birth to both my children in my Sitting Room
  • I was London Schools high jump champion 3 years in a row
  • I’ve suffered from insomnia for 7 years and apart from when I occasionally take a sleeping pill I never get more than 3-4 hours a night
  • I was in the Olympic Stadium for Super Saturday and saw 3 GB gold medals in 40 minutes
  • I spend 2 hours every week helping at my sons school

I was asked to answer the following:

Is there a moment in your life which was utterly life changing?

Oooo this is a hard one.  I don’t want to say meeting my husband or having my kids because although they were obviously life defining moments I want to think outside the box ….. I think maybe it was watching my Mother-In-Law battle and eventually die from breast cancer.  She was the most phenomenal woman who was so brave and positive with an amazing outlook on life.  She died 3 weeks before our eldest was born which is just devastating as she really would have been such a wonderful Granny.  She died at home with all of us around her and she has left an enormous hole in our lives but she really does live on in our memories.  I speak about her everyday with our children and my daughter’s love of everything girlie and pink definitely comes from her.  I think she has made me realise that nothing in life should stop us being happy and enjoying what we’ve got when we’ve got it.  Life is just too short….

What was the first single you ever bought?

Carless Whisper – Wham

Why did you start to blog?

I’m an insomniac who has a lot of spare time at night so I started to blog and make my crafts to keep myself sane.

Would you rather be happy and poor or sad but rich?

No question – happy and poor

What is your favourite film and what do you think that says about you?

Love Actually, Notting Hill, 4 Wedding and a Funeral – that I’m far too soppy!
So, onto the 5 people that I want to tag:
My 5 questions to you are:
  1. If you had 24 hours to live and money was no object what would you do?
  2. If you could change one thing that you’ve done in your life what would you change?
  3. What has been your favourite holiday and why?
  4. What would your choice of last meal be?
  5. What would your dream day with your kids be?
Thanks so much for reading and thank you very much to Mumtales for tagging me
I look forward to reading my tags replies

Ranty Friday – hangovers

So at what point is it fair that the older you get the worse the hangovers become?

ranty friday hangover

As a teenager and early twenties I was a big binge drinker and smoker and my hangovers were bad but I could continue 5, 7 even 10 days on the trot with just a quick Bloody Mary (or actually in my case a full fat Coke) and then on with the drinking.  OK, I didn’t have anything to get up for (well apart from University and then work) in the mornings but it didn’t matter I just coped.

I gave up smoking when I was 26 and the hangovers disappeared totally, not a jot, never ever.  It was amazing.  I couldn’t believe that smoking could really make me hungover and not the alcohol.  So I was laughing, I sympathised with my friends when they were suffering but truthfully just thanked my lucky stars and patted myself on my back for having such an amazing constitution!

Then I hit 30 which also coincided with having children and it has become an absolute JOKE.  OK, so when I drink I drink a lot – I’m a big girl and can take my drink – but still…. it just isn’t fair to punish me in such a way, especially when I have to look after my children with their whining and crying and constant why, why, why, why??????  No that’s not fair they’re not that bad at all however when I’m hungover THEY ARE THAT BAD.

So my Ranty Friday post this Friday really is in desperation – why oh why are my hangovers so bad?

Thanks for reading

ps – please check out my twitter friends blog – Mummy Barrow  She is encouraging us all to let out a rant each Friday and posting it on her blog – letting out a bit of steam before the weekend comes.

Reasons to be cheerful – it’s the end of half term

Now don’t get me wrong, I love my children and love spending time with them but we’ve just had 2 weeks of half term and that’s only 6 weeks after 9 whole weeks of summer holidays.

My youngest only just started Nursery in September so this is my first experience of having my own time and I’m absolutely loving it.  Truly truly loving it.  It’s only 15 hours a week but it’s been a joy.  For the first few weeks I did very little.  I had grand plans of sorting out the house and their bedrooms and our office that I was changing into my craft room however in truth I watched a lot of Sky Plus!!!!  Anyway, come the end of September I started up Pressies by Pebbles and since then I’ve been spending my time crafting and blogging and generally getting excited about my new business.

So for the children to have been at home for the last 2 weeks, it’s kind of halted everything just as I was getting into my stride.  We’ve had fun swimming, playing in the park and snuggling on the sofa watching films but they’ve also frustrated me.  They are both enormously tired after a busy first half term and therefore are very short fused and hence leaving me a little frustrated.

So, although I feel guilty for saying this, my reason to be cheerful this week is because come Monday they will be back at school and nursery and my equilibrium will return 🙂

I’m linking this up with Reasons to be Cheerful over at Mummy from the Heart

In-Laws or Out-Laws?

I think this is a very emotive subject for most relationships.  Very very real for any couple but I’m going to talk about it from a woman’s perspective.

Mother-In-Laws-Present out laws

When you start dating someone the last thing on your mind I suppose is “Will I get on with his family”, and even as you get more serious and therefore spend more time with his family, it’s only in short bursts so therefore all very amicable!

So at what point do you think we start thinking about the family that we’ll be “adopting”.  When do we think “can I live the rest of my life with them being part of my family”?

Since getting married 6 years ago and now being a parent I have spent many many many hours with  friends discussing their in-laws (or in some cases out-laws) and I have to say in more cases than not it’s a negative conversation.

Starting with marriage, the mother-in-law can get too involved with wedding plans and makes decisions that the bride doesn’t want.  Then onto children where there can always be a view on what to do and how to do it.

Then, another real issue, does the husband stick up for his wife in front of his parents or take what he feels is the easy ride and lets it go only to have it in the back from his wife when behind closed doors?

I will always remember the first time I met Mr P’s parents.  I was feeling absolutely awful, I had a really really bad cold but I had to go to theirs to stay for the weekend.  We arrived mid evening on the Friday night and had supper straight away.  I kept on having to excuse myself to leave the room to blow my nose or sneeze and found it really really difficult to make conversation.  Anyway, after supper I went upstairs on the pre tense of going to the loo but in fact I locked myself into the bathroom to phone my Mummy to have a cry about how awful I was feeling.  When I opened the door to go back downstairs my darling mother-in-law was standing there with her arms open and just gave me the most wonderful cuddle, she then took me to my bedroom and put me to bed.  She came back up with a hot toddy and kept on coming to check on me throughout the evening.  I will never forget this to this day.

I won’t say it’s always been absolutely perfect.  We had the discussions after we got engaged as to numbers and which family and friends they could invite.  I had to take a deep breath a few times and let my husband sort out the situation.  But none of these issues were major just a bit annoying at the time.

I would love to be able to sit here now and say that I’ve also had some difficulty with her since I’ve had kids but unfortunately I can’t as very sadly she died 3 weeks before my eldest was born having struggled with cancer for the previous 18 months.  She would have made the most phenomenal Granny and there’s not a day that goes by that I’m not sad about what she’s missing out on.

However, I am now left with an amazing father-in-law (he was always great but I think maybe a bit more amazing now).  If she was alive I’m not sure he would have stepped up to the mark with the Grandkids as much as he has.  But here is a man who never changed his own children’s nappies let alone looked after them on his own and who is now on his own with no help.  However he regularly has our two for the weekend to allow us to go to weddings etc.  He’s never ever tried to advise me on how to parent, he’s just been there to congratulate me on the job i’m doing with them and to be there to support me when I need help with the kids or a glass of wine to be poured etc.

So when I sit with my friends who are quite often talking about annoying things their in-laws have done I just have to sit back and offer sympathy but thank my lucky stars for being blessed with mine.

Are you lucky enough to have in-laws or do you have to put up with the out-laws?  And if out-laws do you find yourself fighting with your partner as they’re not sticking up for you like you would expect?

Halloween – bar humbug

So I’m going to admit it …. I just don’t get trick or treating!

When I was younger my parents didn’t allow us out to trick or treat and at the time I thought that was highly unfair – especially as we were normally in bed when my friends were knocking on our door having fun.

halloween trick or treat family

We were allowed to dress up after school and Mummy would make us a spooky tea of sorts but that’s where the fun ended.

Therefore you would assume that I would not conform to my parents ideals and instead grasp Halloween fully – but oh no. I’m just as bar humbug as my parents.

My children are still only 3 and 5 but I’m rejoicing that its half term so they won’t know about it and I won’t need to even dress them up! My curtains will be closed and the porch light won’t be turned on tonight which is a sign to say “go away I have no sweets”. That reminds me, my mother used to give out one raisin each and she used to cackle when telling us the next morning that she bet she wouldn’t see the same children the following year, and yes she was right!

So am I down right cruel (a lot of my friends thing I am) or are you going to join me being bar humbug?

Thanks for reading x

Reasons 2 be cheerful – I’m loving my hobby

Mummy from the heart set up a fab linky back in 2011 to encourage people to appreciate what they’ve got.  As she says ” The best medicine for a negative day is to remind yourself of what you are grateful for” and I’m a great believer in this and so when I saw that she’d made a linky to encourage us to appreciate our life I thought why not.  So here I am…….

reasons to be cheerful craft children hobby decoupage

Today, I have many reasons to be cheerful but I’m feeling especially happy at the moment because after having been a SAHM for the last 5 years, I’ve set up a very small business called Pressies by Pebbles.  I suffer from insomnia and spend most nights wondering what to do with myself because if I stay in bed awake I send myself loopy.  So I took up crafting a few years ago to keep me company during the long nights and have absolutely loved it.  So now I’m able to share my crafty loveliness (even if I do say so myself) by personalising all my pictures into anything you want.

I only started selling a few weeks ago however I’ve already had a huge amount of support from friends and a few strangers so my confidence has increased ten fold and I’m just loving every minute of it 🙂

So I have many reasons to be cheerful however at present I’m mostly cheerful because of my new business 🙂

Thank you for reading.